How do you fake an orgasm? –Lucy O’Fakin
Is giggling during sex weird? –Anonymous
There’s a time and place for seriousness. Like now, when I must seriously inform you that it’s weirder to be stern and unemotive during sex than it is to let out a few giggles. Laughter is, in my experience, a surefire sign that at least one person is having a good time. Your concern over being “weird” suggests that you’re worried about why you’re giggling and how it’s being perceived by your partner(s).
If you think sex-giggling is a weird occurrence, I’m here to assure you that it’s not. If someone falls off the bed, or you bump foreheads, or queef, or fart, or do anything remotely awkward, it’s perfectly normal to laugh it off. Giggling during sex is not, as a reaction to sex’s often fun and/or funny occurrences, weird.
If your partner(s) think(s) giggling is weird, I’m here to suggest that you re-evaluate your sex life, because either you and your humorless partner(s) aren’t on the same page, or you are in fact experiencing some bad sex-giggles (to be explained below). At the very least, talk with your partner(s) about why you’re giggling.
It’ll help, of course, if you understand why it is that you’re giggling in the first place. I assume you don’t really know why you’re giggling, otherwise you wouldn’t be writing to me. Luckily, I am a sex-giggling expert who can help you de-code all sorts of sex giggles. Feel free to clip this next section and hang it by your hookup location of choice for easy reference when the sex-giggles strike.
Giddy, mind-blowing happiness frequently results in giddy laughter. Sometimes there’s nothing better than a playful session of naked wrestling. But a good throw-down need not be the only way to elicit happy sex-giggles; it feels great to get kissed in certain erogenous zones—I am referring, of course, to the neck region—and sometimes a giggle is more apropos than a moan. I happen to have a friend who lets out a little giggle after every orgasm. We call this type of sex-giggling Fucking Awesome. Or Awesome Fucking.
e.g. “why was I so nervous about this?” or “finally, an orgasm!”
A sexy tickle
Increased sensitivity from being in an aroused state can cause ticklishness. You may or may not consider being tickled “good,” depending on how you feel about being tickled; I find that channeling the urge to giggle toward the less-cute sound of squealing like a dying rabbit generally gets the I-hate-being-tickled message across. Whipping out a safety word also works.
With the position, the person, the [role-playing] scenario or the act of sex itself. Never force yourself into uncomfortable positions.
Laughing at your partner
In sex, prepositions are at least as important as positions. And when it comes to partnered sex, “with” is the preposition of choice. Doing things “to” or “at” someone isn’t very respectful. Laughter at someone else’s abilities, size or personality will probably end up making you feel ucky and morally unclean later. Do you really want to have sex with someone you find laughable? Have I mentioned lately that sex should be fun? And honest? (See O’Fakin’s question if you need a refresher on the importance of that last point.)
Sometimes, I’ve been told, sex is less like “making fun naked times” and more like “making love.” If you and your partner(s) have chosen to engage in this serious expression of mutual love, it can be a mood-killer if you can’t look deeply into another’s eyes without feeling silly. If you’re a giggly person, maybe serious sex isn’t for you.
If you can’t channel the emotional energy behind your giggles to suit the proper mood...try closing your eyes and thinking of England? Or just surrender yourself to the giggles. Part of what makes sex feel so good, part of what makes sex liberating, is that it involves a naked recognition of our most basic emotions and urges. If that experience manifests itself in giggles, then you should enjoy those giggles rather than worry about them or how they’re being perceived. I really can’t recommend that you suppress a genuine expression of happiness. (I once again direct your attention to the first question in case you doubt my rigid adherence to the principle of sexual honesty).
If your partner(s) truly find(s) sex-giggles off-putting, you should explain that you’re laughing because you’re enjoying yourself, not because there’s anything inherently silly about your sexual partner(s) or the thought of having sex with him/her/them.
If you can’t talk openly about sex with your partner(s), if you’re incapable of bringing yourself to address why you laugh or of acknowledging a partner as someone who deserves to understand where you’re coming (cumming?) from, then maybe you should hold off on sex for a while. If you’re not comfortable with it, you really shouldn’t be doing it. (I’m repeating myself here, but it’s important that you get this message. It applies to more than sex, you know.)
I will leave you with a couple of pro-sex-giggling tidbits, in case you are still feeling “weird.” Firstly, laughter is kind of like tons of mini-orgasms, releasing happy hormones and working those muscles. Secondly, those involuntary contractions of your core—speaking of muscles—create happy little squeezes of anything/anyone/ anyone’s thing residing in your core at the time. (I already mentioned the importance of [pre]positions, right?)
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(SHE encourages you to make the subject “SEXXX” or something. SHE also promises to ignore the email address from which your sexy emails are sent and assume everyone’s writing on behalf of sexually-awkward friends)