Entering a long distance relationship can be intimidating, especially when you don’t know when you’ll see your significant other next. It can be financially and emotionally taxing to experience such uncertainty, but it can also be incredibly rewarding when you do get to see them again.
Here are some tips to keep the spark going when you’re experiencing a long time apart:
1) Set up weekly (or biweekly) Skype dates. This will give you something to look forward to and provide security so you’re not wondering about the next time you’ll see them. Personally, my partner and I always have a Skype conversation on Fridays and a movie night on Saturdays. Usually, we try to find one other time during the week to Skype, but if it doesn’t work out, we always have those two days to be excited about. In between, make sure you text or phone call each day. It’s really important to keep up the communication. Unlike most relationships, you can’t rely on the physical aspect of the relationship, so it’s important to communicate frequently and build emotional intimacy with each other. In the era of new technological developments, there are plenty of ways to connect with each other.
2) A long-distance relationship has its benefits! Personally, I enjoy the freedom and lack of distraction that comes with having my partner live over a thousand miles away. I feel as though if he were here, I would spend most of my time with him, rather than in the library. At times it is incredibly difficult, but it also provides an opportunity to have independence. If things start to get too hard, talk to your significant other! More than anything, you should be able to trust them and go to them if you are having trouble with the distance.
3) Experience common interests, even if this means doing them apart. Long distance relationships are an opportunity to get creative with your partner! You can read books, watch television series, and even try new recipes together. This will give you plenty to discuss and allow you to try new things. Make a goal for each week: watch one episode of “Doctor Who” or send your partner a new cookie recipe you’ve just tried out. There are lots of ways to create normalcy in a nontraditional relationship.
4) Try not to be a control freak! This can be hard when you don’t see the person every day, but it’s important to maintain a sense of trust and open communication with each other. If you have agreed to be exclusive, go through your days as if your significant other was with you. Just because you are living apart doesn’t mean that you should think of yourself (or your partner) as single. If you start to feel yourself getting clingy, talk to your partner about your concerns and make sure they know that you are not trying to control them. There’s no denying that long distance relationships are difficult, but by communicating frequently, getting creative on dates, and remembering to trust your partner (and yourself!), there’s no reason why you can’t have a happy, healthy, and fun relationship.