Ask Asante: Dear Janet Advice Column

Janet Asante '21

Advice Columnist

Dear Janet,

So I've been feeling very homesick recently, but calling my family just makes me feel more sad because I realize how far away they are. Any advice on dealing with homesickness?

 

Dear Homesick Semeuse,

 

I’m sorry to hear that you feel homesick, as that feeling can be hard to remedy. If calling makes you sad, ask yourself what exactly it is that you miss. I feel that I can only speak from personal experience on this issue, and for me, homesickness is worst when I feel that I’m missing out on important events or milestones. If that’s you, it might help to have someone video conference you in during those times, or fill you in as they’re happening. If your homesickness stems from a fear of being forgotten, maybe care packages from home would help. My mom sends me mail at least once a week, which comforts me and lets me know that I’m often thought of and not forgotten. If cost is an issue, emails work well too! Your feelings of missing home will most likely never completely go away, and that’s okay, as long as you are exercising self-care and coping in a healthy way.

 

Love,

Janet Asante

 

Dear Janet,

I’m not sure if my crush seems interested. We've been vibing more but in front of his friends he kinda brushed me off. Please help.

 

Dear Crushing Scrippsie,

Please make sure that your crush is respecting you as a person. I am a firm believer in valuing self-worth. If he is treating you well when you’re alone, but not when he is with his friends, it can be hard and confusing to decipher which version is the most authentic. My advice is to not take the gamble and find a more consistently respectful person. It is also possible that he would get teased by his friends for demonstrating an interest in you (thank you, toxic masculinity!), so if that’s the case, maybe you should ask him if he is interested in you privately. Whether he is into you or not, it is more than okay to mention the moment he brushed you off and how that made you feel.

 

Wishing you the best of luck,

Janet Asante

 

Dear Janet,

I read your article on the front page of the Scripps Voice. I think it was very well written, but think it is irresponsible to print an undocumented student's name on the article for everyone to see. It is very risky and dangerous to do that, especially with the political climate, racism, and people who are very against immigrants. Even if the student consented (which I hope she did), I don't think it's a very good idea. Anyone could read this and though I hope this would never happen, a student or faculty member who is against immigration could expose her and could cause her or her family to be deported. Even worse, immigration could come onto campus and start racially profiling and snatching people who may or may not be undocumented. Please acknowledge this risk, coming from a concerned Latina.

 

Dear Concerned Latina,

I can understand the concern that you have for the student I interviewed for the article on DACA. During the interview, I commented on the bravery she not only demonstrated by allowing the interview and name usage but by being a student on campus every day. Perhaps it was irresponsible of me to accept her consent, and your hypotheticals are not far-fetched. I wholeheartedly acknowledge the risk I took by mentioning her name. There are ways that undocumented students can be protected on private campuses. This was found on the inside Scripps website: “By declaring ourselves a sanctuary campus, we pledge to seek opportunities to protect all members of our community within the confines of the law, especially those who are most vulnerable, from persecution and violation of their human and civil rights.

As a sanctuary center of higher education, Scripps College commits to the following:

  • The College will protect the privacy of its students, faculty, and staff, and will not release information about individuals’ immigration status, religion, or other affiliations unless legally required to do so.

  • The College will report the receipt of federal agency subpoenas for private records to affected students or employees unless specifically prohibited by applicable law.”

Apologies,

Janet Asante